131 | I Need to GET MY LIFE and HOME IN ORDER - When So Many Things Need Attention and You Don't Know Where to Begin to Get it Under Control - Intentional Edit

On this Tip Tuesday episode of The Intentional Edit Podcast: This mama sounds like she is stressed to the max and burned out from lazy kids, a messy house, not enough time to workout, and she is blaming herself for the lack of organization and not cooking dinner at home. We all have to start somewhere when we have a number of things to improve and this episode is going to give you ideas on how to “get it all together”.

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This mama sounds like she is stressed out to the max and really burned out from lazy kids, a messy house, not enough time to work out, and she is blaming herself for the lack of organization and not having time to cook dinner at home. We all have to start somewhere when we have a number of things to improve. We’re going to get into all of this on this Tip Tuesday episode and learn where to start when it feels like our entire home and life needs a complete overhaul. Hey friends, quick tips that make a big impact in your daily life are my favorite ways to implement systems around the house. I’ve been sharing easy strategies and my go-to organizing products for Tip Tuesday on the intentional edit Instagram feed for a few years now, I’m excited to bring it to the podcast with sure episodes, answering your questions every Tuesday.

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If you want me to answer your questions, go to the podcast page on intentional edit.com and submit your questions there. Let’s get started on this Tip Tuesday episode of the Intentional Edit Podcast. Hey there, thanks for joining me for this Tip Tuesday episode. Before I start answering the listener question of the day, I want to remind you that on February 1st is the first day of the Purge, like a pro bootcamp. I only offer this a couple times a year. This time it is completely free and it is going to be February 1st, second, and third. So three days where each day we will build on different strategies and go over the mindset that you need to successfully declutter and get rid of the stuff in your house that isn’t serving you. So if you are interested, if you made 20, 23 a year that you want to have less stuff and be more organized, then you have to start by decluttering and you need to join this bootcamp.

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All you have to do is click the link where it says sign up for the bootcamp to get more information. It’s in the podcast description, super easy to do. You will get all the details right before the purge, like a Pro Bootcamp starts on February 1st and you can follow along with the lives. Watch the videos. I will answer your questions. I’m thinking about doing a V I P experience where you can sign up for that as well and get me to answer your specific questions and we can get deep into a couple of those each day. So let me know if that sounds like something you would be interested in. Go down to the description of this podcast wherever you are listening in it to for the episode and click on the link so you can sign up to get the information and get access to the Purge like a pro bootcamp.

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Now let’s get into this Tip Tuesday episode. The question that came in, this was a little bit of a conversation that happened and the gist of the question is this, it was long, so I shrunk it down for you, but it says my entire home needs an overhaul. We have too much stuff I try to organize, but it doesn’t even last a day because everything is everywhere and my family doesn’t help with anything my fault. But the kids are lazy and we have gotten really bad with eating out and snacking too much. This was going to be the year I got into a good fitness routine and started making dinner more, but I haven’t worked out once, since January 1st. Oh, and the dinner thing isn’t happening either. We really need to get everything in order and make changes, but nothing I do works. I know so many people listening can relate to that, whether it’s those exact same issues or you just feel like you are on the struggle bus.

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So let’s break this down because this is common. We don’t have just this one problem in life or this one thing that seems to be hanging over our heads, like we wanna make this one change and then everything will be this beautiful magical place and everything will be perfect. It doesn’t work like that. There are so many things that are taking away from the life that we wanna be living and consuming us and overwhelming us and stressing us out all the time. You have to start somewhere when you are making changes. Making changes isn’t easy instead of thinking what you need to add in or what is this extra thing that you need to do to get this issue under control, and what are the three extra things that you need to do to get this other issue under control? And then how are you gonna tackle this one?

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Let’s reverse how you think of things and kind of tackle this backwards. So one thing I like to tell people or remind people is the first step to getting what you want is having the courage to get rid of what you don’t. So if you don’t want to snack all the time on these unhealthy snacks, then you have to eliminate the problem. Don’t buy the unhealthy snacks, replace those with healthy snacks. If you don’t want to be the person who is always picking up dinner to go and grabbing things and running through the drive-through for your family and eating out all the time, then what are you going to do? You have to remove that as an option. If this is something you do seven days a week, then what is your realistic goal? Your realistic expectation? It would look something like, we’re only going to pick up food or eat out three days a week or two days a week.

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Going from seven days to no days probably is not realistic, but you have to come up with the plan. We always have to figure out what is that plan, and sometimes we can do that ourselves. Sometimes there are free races for us, free resources for us, and sometimes we have to get an expert involved. Sign up for a program, take a hor course. Take classes with a physical trainer. Just find classes in your community. Reach out to people that are experts and sign up and commit so that you have a plan to follow through. If it’s not complicated, you might be able to do it for free or on your own or just with a friend so that you have some type of accountability. Partner. You. When you remove the things that are not serving you and that are holding you back and that are not aligned with the priorities that you have set with your family, and you replace those with what you actually want to be doing, what you want to be spending your time on what is important to you, you have to figure out what are the priorities?

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What do you want your life to look like? What do you want your family’s life to look like? What do you want your home to feel like? How do you wanna feel every day? Is stressed out and overwhelmed the norm that you’re gonna stick with? Or do you want to actually make changes and follow through? And if you do, you tackle one thing at a time, you go through, let’s go through the list. There are so many things that are mentioned in this question that came in. Fitness, health, nutrition, home, too much stuff, lazy kits, a family that doesn’t necessarily align with the way that you are thinking that things should go or the way that the house should look or things should be picked up. Wanting to have dinner on the table, wanting to work out, lots of changes. So we can go through a couple of those real quick.

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But if the change is to work out what is happening that is making it so you can’t do this, what can you remove and replace that with working out? And what is a realistic expectation? Again, going from zero to every single day is not realistic. What is a realistic expectation that you can have that can set you up for success? Find a program, find something you’ll do. Set timers, set alarms on your phone to remind you, plug this into your daily schedule. What about the dinner? You want to have dinner? You said you were gonna start cooking this year and that’s not really happening either. You’re, you are following these unhealthy habits that I talk about because habits are the way that we live our life. You have these habits, you’re in this rhythm of picking up food, ordering out, and that’s just the way that you’re doing things.

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How are you going to change the habit? You have to plan. If you wanna have dinners on the table most nights of the week and have a meal plan, I have a great course for that. Sign up for that course. It’s a self-paced course. It will only take you a couple hours to get through and you will have a two week reusable meal plan with a grocery list. The link is in the podcast description if that interests you. It’s a mini course, so it’s super inexpensive and you can’t have a meal plan for your family for two weeks going to the grocery store, one a time reusable, and do this over and over. Once you do this, you don’t have to waste your time meal planning anymore. It doesn’t have to be something you do every week. So if you’re interested in that, click on the link and go to that course.

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If that doesn’t sound like something you wanna do, where are you finding the resources? Who is your person? Where are you going to get help so that you can follow through with this? You have to have some kind of a plan and a routine and then change the habit and you’re going to do this one at a time. If the workout is the focus this month, then next month continue with the workout and add the second thing. Maybe that’s the family dinners and then the month after that, add the third thing, tackling the house that never stays picked up. You try to organize, but it doesn’t even last for a day. I can tell you why you didn’t declutter, you didn’t purge. You have to have the whole plan. If this were my situation, I would start with the decluttering, the purging and removing the excess.

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The thing is that you do not need that. You do not use that. You do not want removing those from the home and getting the spaces that you are in the most and that make you the most overwhelmed. I would start that. So if this sounds like you join the Purge, like a pro bootcamp, that link is also in the podcast description. Sign up for that so that you can be sure to get the email with all the information right before it begins on February 1st. It’ll be three days of lots of training and in-depth information about clutter and how to get rid of it and not let it creep back into your home again. So tons of good information and that sign up for that. Start with the decluttering and get rid of some of this stuff. It’s hard for your kids to follow through and keep up with where to put things when you have organized here and there because they don’t know the system.

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They don’t have a new routine to follow yet. These new practices haven’t been established for them, and that’s why I created the Simplified Home Masterclass because it takes you through all of that. We declutter and purge and then organize and create the systems that make sure the organization can stick. It’s not just a one and done. You have to have systems and routines and you have to have the habits to have success with all of this. Now, we could do an episode on every single one of these or mini episodes to dive in, to really get to the details of how to tackle every single one of these topics and the the overwhelming thing that would come up in every single one of those episodes is you have to have a plan and you have to replace the bad habit with a good habit. And that looks like something that you come up with that is a new routine, the new way of doing something that after you do it for about a month, it eventually becomes a habit.

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A habit that doesn’t take mental energy anymore. It’s just the way of doing things. And that’s why you can’t go in in and change 10 things all at once and expect everything to work and be perfect and for you to conquer all of the things you wanna change. You have to break it down and tackle one thing at a time. I would love to have you join us in the Purge, like a pro bootcamp starting February 1st. Click the link in the description so that you can join us and be sure to get the information on that, and I will talk about that a lot more in the next episode. These things that you wanna do are absolutely doable. You’re setting a priorities so that you have meaningful time with your family and that you feel good in your home. And you know, if you’ve listened to these episodes for a long time, that’s a very, very important to me, and I know you can do these things.

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Start with the thing that is most irritating to you. Join us for The Purge, like a Pro bootcamp and change that one habit this month before you move on to the next one. Thank you for joining me for this Tip Tuesday episode, and I will meet you back here later in the week for the next episode of the Intentional Edit podcast. That wraps up another quick episode of a Tip Tuesday. If you want to be featured on intentional edits, tip Tuesday, go to intentional edit.com. Click on the podcast page in the menu bar and then scroll all the way down to the bottom. You’ll find a button that says Record tap on that and record your question or share what is currently overwhelming to you. What is going on that you need help with. I want to know, I need to know your struggles so I can share actionable solutions to help you create simplicity in your home. If you are having this issue, I know other people are having it too, and we wanna help as many people as possible. Head over to the podcast page of intentional edit.com and record your question for me there.

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Lauren is the founder of Intentional Edit, a home organization and lifestyle company focused on consciously editing to create efficient and organized spaces. Lauren believes that a functional home that looks and feels good has a positive influence on all aspects of life. Creating systems that allow for the home to function more efficiently, therefore, eliminating most of the clutter and chaos is her priority. While trends come and go organization is always in style!

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