What are the things taking up your time that are keeping you from the life you want to be living?
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[00:00:00] The thought is a common one. I never heard of time. Or if only I had more time, I would be able to do this or I’d finally get to that project or I would get something done that I want to do. My house. Wouldn’t be a mess if I had more time, if I only had a little more time, I would’ve used so exhausted that list goes on and on, but. Is the answer to this struggle really?
That we need more time. The conversation of not having enough time of never having enough time is one that I hear over and over again. It’s a recurring topic. I feel like for so many different age groups, once you. Her and adulthood. It’s like, we are programmed to believe. I don’t have time for this. I don’t know time for that.
There’s just never enough time in our minds. And we tell ourselves that if there was [00:02:00] more time, if we had an extra day, if we had an extra hour. That we could accomplish so much more that we could finally organize something. We could finally have the house picked up. We could do really whatever you’re thinking of, where your saying to yourself. I just don’t have time for that.
I don’t have time right now. Uh, and another time later in life, I’ll get to that when I have more time. And I have seen a medium is recently that have. Been interested. They’ve made me laugh. And they say thing is that R meaning that during the pandemic, when we did have time, when we were stuck at home, it was like, Hey, we learned that having more time or having extra weeks where we’re at home and where you can’t schedule anything, our calendars are blank.
We learned during that period of life, that more time, isn’t really the answer to getting things done, to actually accomplishing. These thing is that we are constantly telling ourselves if we only had more time, we would do this. The things that we’re currently procrastinating, those didn’t necessarily happen when we were forced to be in a position where we actually had more time now. In general, we get to things that are a priority for us, whether we’ve identified them as a priority or not. The things that are important or the things that we enjoy doing or the things that are easier to do, those are the thing is that we get to, when we have a little flexibility in our schedule or when we have minutes that we can fill with things because there isn’t that structure in our day, we fill them with the things that we like to do.
The things that are easier to do the thing is that are out of habits because we are creatures of habit and anything that isn’t in our daily. Daily habits, our daily structure or daily routine. That takes additional effort, additional planning to start and really to get through [00:04:00] that entire process and eventually get to the completion of that. That takes effort. And usually a little bit of planning ahead. So that’s not what we’re going to do.
We’re going to stick to the habits that we have, even when we know that accomplishing something, that probably is something that we have been putting off. We’ve been procrastinating. This it’s a long overdue. We know that result is beneficial. We know that it’s going to feel good when it’s done. When the benefits are good at happen, we finish it.
There’s benefits. And those benefits usually. Have a longer lasting effect, then the negativity of what is coming from not doing that or not starting that project or that task or. Whatever it is that we need to work on that we’re putting off that we’re saying I don’t have enough time for this. We still get caught up in that constant thought of simply needing more time to do this or make the change that changed could only happen if we have more time. And most of the time, that is simply an excuse that we’re using in the moment I have to, I guess you could say kind of independent thoughts on this topic and they work together.
The first thing I want you to acknowledge for yourself is that the capacity you have in life right now in this current season is not the same as it was five years ago or 10 years ago. It might not be the same as it was five months ago. And it’s definitely not the same as it will be in five. Years. Now, I’m not saying that this is like a linear progression and we are constantly. Gaining capacity or losing capacity.
It’s not constantly going in one way or another, but I want you to get in the mindset of being lenient on the expectations on what you’re expecting of yourself in this time in life and focus [00:06:00] on right now, not what it was or what it will be. Let’s get into the now and think about. What is happening now?
What is realistic? Right now? We can all think of a time where we used to get more done or a time where we used to be able to go to the gym five or six times a week. That was no problem. And then in a different season of life, A whole workout once or twice a week. That might seem like an accomplishment. If you’re in kind of a negative Headspace, then you might even be stuck in the mind space mindset of. It’s never enough.
That one does you work out? It’s never enough. Oh, that’s so pathetic. I could only get one. Does you work outs? Like what’s that even going to do anyway? Instead of. We should switch that around and think. That’s a celebration. And this season of life, I did two workouts and that’s amazing. Let’s celebrate that.
We did something and something is better progress over perfection all the time. Making steps towards the goal is always more beneficial than doing nothing at all. I was recently talking to a mom. She has six kids of a various AJS, and she was saying how, when she had her first baby and her second baby. She looked at getting a shower in as a luxury.
It wasn’t happening daily. Definitely not daily. It wasn’t happening very often at all. And so she was in this thought process of, I have a lucky to get a shower in on this day or that day or any day that happens. I’m so lucky to do that. And she mentioned that now she thinks. These are her last two babies. The most recent newborn phase for that baby.
And the one prior to that, she was like, you know what? I made it a priority. And I made sure that once I was home with those babies, I got a shower every single day, because it was a priority for her. It [00:08:00] was a non-negotiable. A walk or some type of movement in her day. And a shower became these non-negotiable things.
They became her priorities. And she said it was because she knows she’s a better mom. She’s a better wife. She’s all around. She’s a better person. And her mental health was benefiting so significantly from doing those two things every single day. That it was making everything else easier and it was making her happy and be more present.
And we got into this for a couple of minutes where she really explained where the, her priorities. We’re different because she said, I didn’t know any better. I didn’t realize that these things that take up a small fraction of my day were shaping. Every single day, but really even bleeding into the whole week and the whole month and just her outlook in her perspective and for her mental health, that, those two things, the movement though, outdoor walkers, her preference and a shower.
And she’s like a shower could be five minutes. This doesn’t have to be a big thing, but to do those two favors, it changed her outlook on her entire day. And. Made her feel considerably better. So those became priorities for her. They were non negotiable thing is, and I bring up this story because with everyone, for all of us life changes, we go through different seasons.
Some of those seasons are busier. Some are more relaxed. Some are obviously much different and there’s a definite event where you could draw a line and say, before this event happened, This was one season of life and it looks like this. And once this event happened, This one thing changed everything. And after that it’s remarkably different.
And now this season looks like this. And this different way. Sometimes seasons of life change. And it’s [00:10:00] a gradual thing. There’s not an obvious change, like having a baby or moving across country or something significant. You. Can look back and you can see it’s obvious, like, oh, back a year ago, things were much more difficult.
It was harder. Our time was stretched, you know, whatever that looks like. And now, and now it’s changed and it’s changed over a period of time. So I want to remind you to remind yourself, to be kind to yourself, be nice to yourself as the seasons of life change, the expectations that we put on how productive we can be and what we can accomplish and what we have the time and the mental capacity to get done.
That should change to. You are not going to be able to accomplish the same amount of stuff today as you did in a season of life. When you had fewer obligations and less responsibilities. If you’re in a place where you are mentally taxed, the capacity to take on more and get more done. That isn’t possible right now. It will be sometime. But it’s not possible right now.
And the pressure you’re putting on yourself is making it less likely that you are going to get things done that you really do want to be doing. If you’re coming out of a demanding season, that means you will be able to do more, or you will be able to take on something else that you haven’t been able to do the last few months or the last few years. We are all at different places in our lives and we handle and prioritize things differently.
And our capacity for what we can do into these different seasons of life is that that is so different too. We’re all really, really different, unique individual humans. The way that we can handle certain things or not, or prioritize certain things or [00:12:00] not. And luckily we get to do that. So as you are moving. Through life and you still need to do things and you still have responsibilities. I’m just saying, be kind to yourself. Remember. Every day is changing and what is possible today? Might not be possible in a few months, or maybe it’s not possible today, but it is possible.
And if you let’s move forward, progress over perfection. Keep going and be kind to yourself as you keep going. Now having said all that, I want you to keep in mind that as the phases of life change, you can change what you allow to take up your time and to take up your space in your home. And you get to say, I’m going to let this go.
I get to let things go. That used to be important because my life is different. Now I’m in a different place and those things are not important anymore. Those are not what I’m prioritizing right now. Now of course. Be kind, give yourself grace, change your expectations as it’s needed. And then also let’s add here.
We still have to get things done. So the thought of never having enough time that has to shift a little bit to. We need to analyze our priorities. And when you’re analyzing your priorities, that means letting go of what is not serving us. What is not something that is helpful to us in this season of life? Because once we let those things go, that are not serving us.
That means we have time for what is important. We have time to do the things that needed to be done that are going to make an impact on our life right now. And that includes the occasional project or the task or the stacker stuff in your bedroom that is driving you crazy. It’s adding to your stress. Yes, that needs to be dealt with for your own wellbeing. And your peace and to have a home and a place that feels good to you, those things [00:14:00] still needed to be done.
And the way that we tackle those, when we have less capacity, Is going to be different than when we are in a season where we have more time and more flexibility to do these things. So the approach looks different. There’s there are often things we have to put in time upfront. Like a project, getting the things done, preparing something, set, you, setting up a nursery for a new baby organizing. Uh, P entry or clearing out the clutter.
Those are things where you’re going to put in the time upfront. And it’s going to save you time in the long ride. I think about, uh, like a small chore chart or a reward system for kids, it takes time to come up with the idea to create it, to explain it probably a few times over and over to the little whites.
And then you have to reinforce this daily to make these new things become a habit. And eventually the routine that your kids are following. But that effort pays off big time because the goal with the simple chores charts and the reward system that follow through that you do, that’s teaching lifelong mess life long lessons that are going to add value. To your kids and your home and your family, and hopefully you society and all the things that they participate in, you are adding a value.
And it’s going to give back the time you put in day after, day after, day after day. So even in busy seasons and where these were these times where our capacity is less, there are things that we have to do sometimes. And we keep going and we still prioritize some things get done. In front of others, and that is in that season.
And in the next phase of life, we might prioritize things a little bit differently. As we take a few minutes to evaluate what life looks like for [00:16:00] us individually, because it’s different than our neighbor. It’s different than our friends. What that looks like specifically for, for ourselves, our homes, our families right now, what our day today allows us to do to accomplish, to just simply get by with, and this season or this phase right now. Identify the priorities that you have for this.
And then we have to stop doing the things that don’t matter. Once we have identified the priorities. So you identify the priorities, what’s important to you and then remove the things that don’t matter. If you feel like there isn’t enough time, we have to subtract. We’re taking away the things that are taking up our time that we don’t need to be doing when you’re looking for more time or you’re wishing there was more time ask yourself if what you’re doing right now, what you’re doing and this severity moment. Do you really care about this? Is this something that needs to be done?
Is this something you even enjoy doing? Does it have to happen is what you is. Is this what you really want to be spending your time on? So ask yourself those questions and give yourself time to listen to the thoughts in your head. What are you thinking? What do you really want to get more done? Whether it’s an accomplishment or more time for the people that are important to you, the things that you enjoy the quality time.
Do you want more quality time with people that you love? That means you have to say no to stop doing things that don’t need to be done and replace them with the priorities that you’ve identified, that things that you enjoy, the things that will get you one step closer to that life that you envision. [00:18:00]
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