It’s that time again – calendars are filling up and all the schedules can be difficult to manage and add to your stress.  Even when you have a lot going on, it’s possible to manage the schedule for your entire family.  Simple and intentional routines allow us to have freedom in our days and keep our homes running with less effort and more free time.  Episode 74 of The Intentional Edit Podcast is packed with strategies that you can implement if you are craving a life aligned with your priorities, want more downtime and need to manage that schedule before it is entirely out of control.  



 

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It’s that time again, calendars are filling up and the schedule can be difficult to manage overwhelming at times. And it even adds to your stress. Even when you have a lot going on, it’s possible to manage the schedule for your entire family and for yourself, simple and intentional routines allow us to have freedom and our days and keep our homes running with less effort and more free time to enjoy the things that we want to be doing. In episode 74, I’ve packed it with strategies that you can implement. If you’re craving a life aligned with your priorities. If you want more downtime and need to manage that schedule before it is entirely out of control. This episode is for you.

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Hey moms, welcome to the intentional edit podcast. Do you wanna stop feeling overwhelmed and finally get your home organized. Do you find yourself up late at night, worrying about how you are going to get everything done and not drop the ball? You are wondering where to start and what to do. There is never enough time in the day. The piles of laundry are building up and it’s already time for after school activities, homework, snacks, and carpool. Oh, again, I’m Lauren. I too want an organized, clean home where my family can make long lasting memories and be present in the moment feeling like there’s never enough time to complete all the daily tasks is exhausting. So simplicity all around a healthy meal on the table at dinnertime and a family that contributes to the chores really is attainable. Stop telling yourself that you have to do it all or it will never get done. Or that picky eaters will never allow for a complaint-free dinner. In this podcast, you will learn exactly how to declutter implement systems and maximize routines that remove the overwhelming unorganized parts of life, bringing simplicity to your life and home. Come on. It’s time to create a life you love.

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Hey, there friends. Welcome to another episode of the intentional edit podcast and happy Friday the first week of August. And that means that more and more of our kiddos are back to school or almost back to school with back to school, time comes new schedules, new routines, new calendar, lots of information that is constantly coming at you. How do you manage it? How do you fit it all in new classes, new sports, new activities, new afterschool programs, all kinds of things. And you’re taking in all of this information. You’re learning how it works, and you still have to manage your home, manage the tasks that you do. The regular mom, routines, mom, life, managing a family. All of that. If you are working outside of the home, you have that going on. That continues all the time. You have other relationships, extended family, friends, all kinds of things.

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And a lot of changes happen at the beginning of the school year. So getting your schedule under control so that it is manageable and that it aligns with your priorities is essential so that you can feel good throughout the year and stay on top of things without being overwhelmed. If you are feeling frazzled like so many of my coaching clients and the moms that I’m talking to, then you will love the tips. In this episode, they are actionable. You can walk away from the episode, just like the other episodes of the intentional edit podcast, with things that you can apply in your life. If you need more help, of course I can work one on one with you and we can do a schedule audit and get your calendar dialed in so that this can be the best school year yet. And you can have routines that are custom for yourself and your family that make sense to make life easier.

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What are all these things that you need to do? If you are feeling like everything is outta control and there’s too much going on while you have to get your schedule under control. And that’s what this podcast is all about. If you haven’t listened to episode 72, which was out last week about systems and routines, go back and listen to that because the routines and the systems that you put in place in your life, your day to day, things that you want to do every single day, that eventually become habits. Those are things that make life easier. Those also help with simplifying and making it so that your calendar, your schedule, that things that you’re doing from minute to minute are easier. And in turn that makes life easier. If your schedule is chaotic and all over the place where you don’t have any peace in your day, you’re struggling with mom.

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Guilt. Feel like you’re pulled in so many directions all the time, just all over the place. You don’t even know what’s going on some of the time, because you’re just pulled in every single direction and you can’t get the messy house under control. There’s always something that’s not put away or out. That’s driving you crazy. And you know that something has to give, I wanna help you so that you can simplify and bring peace to your life because you deserve that. Schedule a coaching session with me. So I, that I can get ahold of your calendar, your schedule, what’s going on. And I will audit your schedule and find the times throughout your day, where we can implement. And I can teach you how to implement these routines. What routines are needed to simplify your day and put an end to these struggles. If this sounds like you, you deserve better than your current situation, and it’s not far away, you just need hope getting there.

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And I can help you do that. The beginning of the school year is one of the best times to really dial it in with your calendar and schedule and make a plan to have a successful school year at home and not just at home, but in every area of your life. So you can, can be the best mom and partner and friend and everything that you do when your schedule is under control. And you feel like your house is in order and you have systems and routines for everything. Then you can have peace in your life and you can truly be the best version of yourself. I could teach you how to make all this possible. I can teach you how to get your schedule and calendar under control and successfully create routines to make each day easier. I want this for you. We wanna make your days easier and keep your home picked up to help you feel less overwhelmed.

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So if this is something that you need, let me audit your schedule and let’s get this thing done before you get too far into the school year, feel more chaotic. So just go to intentional, edit.com/coaching, click on the calendar link and book a time that works for you. What about the calendar? What are we gonna do to get this calendar under control? First? I wanna know you’re craving simplicity. You’re craving simple routines. Whether you know it or not, and you want a manageable schedule. The first thing I wanna know is what are your priorities? What do you want your like life to look like having trouble with words today. So I want to know what do you want your life to look like? Take a few minutes and think about that. What is a realistic for a good life? I’m not talking about some far off like fantasy.

(07:30):

If you win a hundred million dollars in the lottery type of life, what do you want your life to look like? In terms of day to day? Do you want peace in your life? Are you craving calmness? Are you craving a little bit of downtime? Do you struggle to have any time where you can be engaged and have meaningful moments with your kids? Those are the type of things that I’m wanting to know. Do you wish that your kids played independently so that you could have 30 minutes a day to get work done? Do you struggle with things and belongings all over your house? So you have that added stress because there’s constantly these physical belongings and these things and visual clutter, all over everything in your house, doesn’t have a home. And what are the priorities that are important to you? Do you wanna spend more time as a family?

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Do you wanna make more memories? Do you wanna be able to go on a special trip every year? What are some priorities? They don’t have to be huge far fetched things, but what are realistic things that you want to have happen in your life? When you can identify those, it becomes a lot easier to do the things you need to do and motivate yourself to get things done, because you always have a vision in your mind of what you want your life to look like. And you know what your priorities are. So when you have to make decisions on, if you’re going to make a commitment to something, or if you’re going to purchase something new that has to come into your home, if it doesn’t align with your priorities, it isn’t easy or no. It makes it easy for you to say no. If it aligns with your priorities, and if it moves you in the direction that you want to go in to get to this life that you desire, then it’s an easy, yes, that’s a very simple way to break that down.

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That’s just the basics. Take a few minutes and figure out what are the priorities for your home, for your life, for your family. And what are the thing is that you want your daily life to look like? How do you want your days to go? What do you want your daily life to look like? If mornings are always a struggle then, and when you’re doing these brainstorming and you’re imagining what I want my life to look like, I wanna have a smooth morning. I wanna have 15 minutes by myself to enjoy a cup of coffee before anyone makes up. But right now you’re the last one to wake up because the kids are coming in at the side of your bed. You’re getting out of bed, you’re groggy and you don’t have that time to yourself. What are the changes you can make to accomplish that?

(10:16):

What are the changes you can make to have 15 minutes? And maybe it doesn’t happen overnight. Maybe it’s setting back the alarm by three or four minutes each day, over the course of two weeks until you’re getting up 15, 20, 30 minutes earlier. So that you’re the first one a week instead of the last one, a week. Things like that are simple. They’re doable. You can do these things, little things, change your life. We also have to think about what are your expectations? What are the expectations for yourself, for your family, for your kids, for your spouse, and are those expectations realistic. And if you think that they’re realistic and they’re possible, you want to always set up yourself to have realistic expectations because expectations can breed disappointment if they’re not realistic and doable. So are your expectations realistic and are the expectations that you have that you have told everyone about?

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Or are they just in your head? You’re keeping them in your mind. And then you’re constantly disappointed. So have you communicated these expectations and your needs and your desires for the family, to the people living in your home and to the people that these directly affect. You want to make sure that you have good communication. Let’s make a game plan for how you can have success with responsibilities that need to be done so that your expectations can be met. One thing I want to remind you, that is very important, not only in this, but in so many things in any relationship is communicate. You have to have good communications. Talk about your expectations and talk about your desires for your family. What your priorities are. This can be a team effort, a family effort. It can be like creating a family mission statement on a smaller level, but just talking about the things that you guys want to do.

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If you’re wanting to have more time together as a family uninterrupted and intentional time, if everyone knows and is on the same page, then it’s easier to get the task done, make the plan to get the chores done in an efficient manner so that there is more time available to have intentional, meaningful time together. As a family, communicate this to everyone. If your kids are old enough, make sure you include them. And when you are communicating, talk about these things in a calm non-confrontational way, maybe you need to even set up a time to talk or have like a family meeting type of thing with all the people involved and set this time up ahead of time, let them know what you’re planning. And when in the next week, can we make time to have this 30 minute conversation or brainstorm for 30 minutes? The thing is that are important to us and some priorities for our family.

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Once you’ve done that, and you’ve had those conversations, then divide the responsibilities and remember fair does not mean equal. Fair does not mean everyone does the exact same things. Having chore charts, daily tasks, all of that will make it possible so that you can divide up the responsibilities. But life is constantly changing. People are available to do different things at different times in their life. If you have one child that is heavily involved in fall sport and is very busy for the next couple of months, they might have fewer chores or chores that don’t take up as much time as the other kids do right now in the winter. When the other kids are heavily involved with something, it might shift a little bit. And that’s okay. When you are coming up with chores and responsibilities for each member of the family, you have to think about the ages.

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What is age appropriate? What’s developmentally appropriate? What can these kids do? And most chores don’t even take up 10 minutes in the day. Probably 15 minutes is the max, even for older kids, because when everyone has a few things to do all of the things that need to be done are accomplished quickly. Life is constantly evolving. So if some kids have more chores than others right now, and then that changes and balances out that’s okay. And it’s the same thing for parents or anyone else living in the home too. If someone is at home all day and the other person works nine, 10 hours a day has a long commute both ways and is not as home home as often. Then they’re probably doing less of the chores at home. Everyone contributes, but everyone contributes in a different way. That’s just the way that things are.

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So don’t get caught up in everything having to be fair in terms of the same exact things, the same amounts of time, the same effort put forward, because things change circumstances, change. And what works for a couple months might not need to be a little bit different. A few months down the road. You’re coming up with a plan that works right now in the situation you’re in for the stage of life, with the age of kids that you currently have. And that’s all that you need to focus on. When you’re coming up with these responsibilities for everyone, then you need to either change the routines you have, that aren’t working or create new routines. If you just have these habits that aren’t serving you that are really have become like bad habits. And it’s just the way you do things, then create routines, come up with these routines and systems that align with the priorities that you talked about and came up with and communicated and brainstormed together as a family.

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So do your routines align with your priorities. You have to make that happen because the routines and the systems, when they are aligned with your priorities, make it possible to meet the expectations that you have. Go back and listen to episode 72. So you know more about creating and implementing these systems and routines to have success with that with your family, then comes something that seems hard until you do it a few times, but you have to eliminate what is not necessary and not serving you and not serving your family. If it doesn’t align with your priorities, you’re going to eliminate. You’re going to eliminate the rest. You’re going to start saying no. So I want you to do a few things. Let’s talk that over a bit. I don’t want this episode to get too long, but let’s just talk this over quickly. Number one, you’re going to brainstorm brainstorm.

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What’s important to your family and how you want your days, weeks, months, years to look how you want the daily things to go. What do you want them to look like? If you want more connection and more family time, quality time together. You have to eliminate the activities, the parties, the screen time, the scrolling, the gatherings, all of these extra things that don’t fit this priority. How you do that, you’re going to set up systems and you’re setting up routines that help you achieve these things. And remember you’re saying no to the things that don’t align with your priorities. So the first one is that brainstorming session. Number two is going to be the communication piece. You have to communicate. So you’re gonna have a conversation with your spouse and your kids or anyone that is living in your home and in your daily life.

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So have this conversation, make sure the kids are old enough to participate. If you have babies, they don’t need to be part of it. But if your kids are a little older, they can be part of this, communicate and share what you’re thinking about. What are your desires and ask them what they want. What do they want their days to look like? What do they want their, their family to look like, listen to their feedback and really listen, take time to let them speak and give their input. Listen to the feedback that they give and move on from there. Take all of that information, make a game plan to move your life forward towards these priorities. And you’re going to have to make changes, changes to your routine, changes to what you commit to. Those are things that you may be saying no to. And you were always saying yes before changes to little things, just little things here and there, but keep your priorities in mind.

(19:11):

You have to keep your priorities in mind because when you do this, it will guide you to make the right decisions. And you’re making decisions that fit the priorities. It will help. You know what to say yes to and what not to say yes to ask yourself what if you’re about to do something and it doesn’t feel good. Does it fit your priorities and the way you want your life to look, 30, 60, 90 days down the road, does it meet these priorities? Does it meet, help you meet the goals that you wanna set for yourself or that you have? So for yourself, if you need help with that, listen to episode 66, I interview dev from the free and well podcast and she can, well, she does. In that episode, she explains how you can have the confidence to say no to things and not feel the guilt.

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Not feel that about saying no, because we can’t do everything. We can’t please everyone. And that’s hard for some people. I know I get myself into situations sometimes, and I’ve gotten better about it over the years, but I feel obligated to do certain things, even though it wasn’t fitting in with my priorities. Once you figure out it’s okay to say no, it’s okay not to do everything. Life becomes easier because life is aligning more with your priorities. So go listen to episode 66. If you struggle with that, because it will help you find the confidence to say no to things that aren’t serving you, that aren’t in your best interest and that aren’t aligned with the priorities that you’ve set for your family. The third thing is, we’re gonna talk about scheduling. You have to manage your schedule. And I’ve talked a lot about schedules and scheduling and creating routines to make your days easier and to simplify your life because that’s why I’m here.

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That’s one of the reasons why I started this podcast. I want to help you live a simplified life. One thing you can do is prep for the week ahead. This is very important. Every single week, give yourself a few minutes to prep for the week ahead. Listen to episode 45. It was three things. Every busy mom should do at the start of the week to simplify and stress less all week long. The things I talk about in that episode are game changing. You need to go listen to episode 45, and that will teach you how to do a weekly prep. Kind of like a reset restock refresh for the week and make sure you know what to expect. Think about it like this. If you were going on a weekend trip and you were going to pack for your trip, you wouldn’t just throw everything into a suitcase.

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You would do a couple things. You would check the weather and make sure you were bringing the right clothes. And you would bring the clothes that make sense for the activities you are doing. If you’re going to a formal wedding, that includes a dinner the night before and a brunch the day of, or the brunch the day after and all these activities that cause you to need dressy clothes, you wouldn’t pack the same things as if you were going on a camping outdoor adventure type, muddy, dirty trip in a thunderstorm. Those are two different things. And a few minutes, glancing at the weather, looking at your itinerary, makes it possible so that you know what to pack so that you have everything you need on that trip. And you’re not stressed out because you didn’t bring the right things. You’re not stressed out because you have high heels on your camping trip.

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It’s the same thing with a weekly prep. When you have this really just a few minutes of prep, time to figure out what is happening the week ahead, make the proper plans for that. Then you are setting yourself up for success and you’re giving yourself more time, more free time because you are now prepared for the week ahead. This includes setting up the weekly refresh and restock that I talk about. You wanna have all your ducks in a row and you have all your ducks in a row. You have all the supplies you need the groceries for your meals. The schedules under control babysitters are lined up. Carpools figured out everything you need is done because you took a little time to prepare before the week starts everything to make the week, be as smooth as it can possibly be. And you know what to expect.

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And everyone else in the family knows what’s going on too. That’s what happens with that, that you’re going to need to get all of your schedules in the same place on the same calendar. And I want you to have one master calendar for the family. Usually a digital calendar, digital calendar for the master calendar is my favorite number. One thing that I can recommend everyone that has a schedule that you are responsible for, or you are part of needs to be included when you make this master calendar. So it can be shared a shared digital calendar, even simplifies things even more. So you can start doing this tonight, add every calendar. And every schedule that you have to this digital calendar, you can do it on your phone. You don’t even need to have a computer. The school calendar comes out. If you have kids at more than one school, add every single calendar, put the dates from the school calendar into your digital calendar, add the events for the entire year.

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You don’t wanna have to go back. You don’t wanna have to be behind because you only did a couple weeks. The calendar comes to you. You take that page and you add every single event, every single date that’s on that calendar that applies to you and you put it on your digital calendar for the entire year. Any sports, any activities, any classes, if you want to take a workout class, if you’re significant, other does some kind of a workout class or is involved in something one day, a week or one day a month, put that on the calendar. Because when it’s not on the calendar, that’s when we forget, or we don’t remember that it’s happening and it causes the frustration or it causes the last minute panic. So put everything on the calendar when it is happening on those specific days. At those specific times that you guys are participating in, it gets added to the calendar and keep these up to date.

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If a birthday party invitation comes or you plan a trip, add it to your calendar, put it in there and make this information available to everyone in the family. That again is age appropriate. You will use this calendar to look at when you do your weekly prep, when you’re prepping for the week ahead. And then if you have a wall calendar or a family calendar or something that I have explained in some of these other episodes, you can add the things to those calendars, where it’s visual and people can see it when they come and go. And everyone has a designated place to look that information on that more is more detailed in other episodes, like episode 45, but you get the idea. The another thing you have to assess your routines and your habits that you currently have and set up routines and responsibilities for everyone, identify the things that have to happen around the house at home in daily life to move towards the priorities and that fit in with the current schedule that you have, because you have your schedule in your calendar.

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You can make assessments on when you can get things done. When is a good time to do the laundry, when is a good time to get the majority of the cleaning in for the house, what days can you actually make dinner? What days can you drive carpool? And what days do you need someone else to drive carpool? Now you get to create the routines and the systems. These are the actual functions that will form the daily habits to live a simplified life with these priorities morning routines, evening routines, weekly prep time, a chore chart or daily task chart and responsibilities for every single member of the family. I know this sounds like a lot, but you’re just going to do this piece by piece. And when you get one thing done, you move on to the next, because having your calendar figured out and seeing the blocks of time, where you have little times available, little chunks of time here and there, that’s when you put in the other things.

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And then the rest of the time remaining becomes the downtime. It becomes the meaning intentional time that you are desiring to spend with your family, to actually play a game with your kids to be present in he’s moments. And you don’t have to fill all of them up. And that’s where the fourth thing I’m gonna remind you of comes in. And that’s no, that is saying no start saying no, because you’re eliminating the things in your life that don’t serve the ultimate priorities for your family, for you and for your family. That one can be difficult. It doesn’t have to be, once you start doing it saying no becomes easier. If you need help with your schedule and you wanna know where to fit in these home tasks, mom responsibilities, grocery shopping, errands, appointments, cooking, dinner, all these things so that they can get done, but they don’t make you crazy fitting it all in go to intentional, edit.com/coaching, click on the calendar link to book a session with me so we can work together and I can audit your schedule.

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Your I can audit your current schedule. And then I will assist you in making changes that will make your daily life easier. I am here and I’m always available to help you. All you have to do is book the session, and this can be the year you get your schedule and calendar under control. You can finally implement routines that will make your daily tasks become a seamless part of the day. And finally you, and I mean this for you. You can get some peaceful time for yourself. You can get some moments for yourself and you can be intentional with the time that you spend with yourself. And the time you spend with your family, making the memories, having the meaningful moments that you’ve been desiring. I’m looking forward to working with you soon, and we can get your schedule and calendar dialed in. Thank you so much for listening.

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Again, this was an episode packed with just so much information, make sure that you are brainstorming your priorities, that you’re communicating with your family, your partner, your kids, everyone in the home, come up with a way to manage your schedule, get everything on the calendar as soon as possible, and evaluate your schedule, plug in things and create systems and routines that fit in with the schedule and calendar that you currently have. And lastly, start saying no to the things that aren’t serving you and that aren’t pushing you in the direction to your priorities. Thank you for listening to this episode. I’ll be back here with you next week with a new tip Tuesday episode, answering another listener question. I’ll talk to you on Tuesday.

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